A little too honest

Most parents are very proud of their children even if their kids may not be perfect angels. That is allowed. However I don't understand parents who remained tolerance when their kids insulted them. I remember one colleague of mine who is a mother to a 8 years old boy. One day, the boy told her that she was old as compared to his friends' mothers.  After that, he would replied that his mother was too fat and old every time she asked. So she decided to go for facials. While the motivation was good but I do think the boy was a little too harsh. But when my colleague related the incident to us, she did not felt insulted, in fact she seemed happy that her boy was honest and observant.

Then there was this diet consultant who brought her 5 years old boy to our date. She told me she started her year long diet program when her boy told her that she was too fat. Now she lost more than 10kgs in less than 3 months and now weighted only 40kgs but she claimed that her boy still think that was fat. Then she turned around and asked her boy if mummy was still fat. The little boy answered affirmatively to that.  She smiled to me as if she was proud of the whole conversation. I did not smile, in fact I felt a little unjustified for my friend. Her boy is slowly torturing her and she had allowed that to happen. How can she execute control over her boy in future if that was allowed?

Maybe I am not a parent yet so to me personally all these remarks felt like an insult and should not be encouraged. Straight talking children may look smart but definitely very low on EQ. Parents deserved to be respected. While the world grow closer with technology and communication and east and west values mixed, we must still not forget our asian roots. If we all talked with straight honestly without regards to the person receiving it, then it made us a little too heartless and inhumane. When we speak or advise, we must do it out of love and goodness for the recipient.  Otherwise the world would be a unhappy one. Parents, while concentrating on education for their children should also incorporate moral and social education as young as possible. We do not want our future leaders to be an unfeeling lots.